the skinny On howtomingle.com
-For those of you who like to skim through, here is the short version.
- At 18 I took courses in Self Development
- I later took courses in The Art Of Conversation
- Soon after I took Courses in Dating And Relationships
After much hard work, in my early 20′s I started working for a Self Development Company.
5 Years later, after successfully helping hundreds of clients all around the globe, I essentially wanted a stronger online presence, so I created howtomingle.com, my baby.
Howtomingle.com is your one-stop-shop to help you in the areas of:
- Self Development.
- Relationship Management
I hope you enjoy this site as much as I loved creating it. If you have any questions, comments, please feel free to email me: firstname.lastname@example.org
The “Longer Version”
Well, for starters I’m a first generation Vietnamese-American. Because my parents were immigrants, I grew up from very humble beginnings. They always tried their best to give me a comfortable life-style, but (like most) my life was far from perfect.
For instance, my parents provided me with a wardrobe full of patched-up hand-me-downs. At the time, I couldn’t have cared less–I was only eight-years-old! However, one time at a family get together, all my relatives chuckled, pointed, and laughed at me the whole day. As an 8-year-old I had no idea why, until my cousin revealed to me, “We are laughing at your patched up-jeans.”
Up until that point, life for me felt simple and carefree: Humiliation was new to me so I had no idea how to handle it. I just remember a sense of wanting to go hide and seclude myself from any and everyone, and, 5 minutes later, I did just that. Thinking back, this was my first experience feeling alone and deserted.
A few years later, it got worse… to the point where I even cried. I told myself “No more! I’m never going to be alone again”. However, I overcompensated by doing whatever it took for people to like me.
I was so fed up with my family and friends, that by the end of high-school I was hungry to figure out :
- how to make friends
- how to get a girlfriend
- why people took advantage of me, and left me, when all I did was try my best to be a good friend.
My failures became the greatest life-changing moment of my life.
By 16 I was being so nice that people thought that I was being fake, and eventually my friends deserted me. The thing I was trying so hard to avoid, occurred again. Being alone.
- I set out on a journey a year after high school to work on myself with self development programs, learning how to make friends through conversation and how to improve my dating life.
- I took out 3,000 Dollars and invested it in on-going Self Development Seminars.
I remember the first time my efforts paid off, I was at a bar: out of the blue, a red-head walks up to me and proclaims, “You’re Hot!” I’ve never had someone call me this–I was speechless. I had no idea what to say, I actually thought someone had dared her to tell me that. However, as far was I was concerned–this was a “genuine” compliment. I didn’t care! I took what I got.
Later on that year, I eventually took courses in the Art Of Conversation and Relationships. I remember going out each day and night practicing what I had learned earlier that day. I tried mingling with people at every opportunity I got: art exhibits, charity events, bars and lounges–anything and everything. I struggled a lot during those times, but I learned a lot, quickly.
My First Girlfriend
I remember the first time my conversation skills finally paid off, I met my soon to be girlfriend. I’ll never forget what she said to me within the first ten minutes upon meeting each other:
“You know what? I really like you, and that doesn’t come around often.” “Wow. I’ve never been told this before”–I thought to myself.
Then I hit a great milestone!
Those were great times in my life…. I remember starting off this journey with no one. But as I improved, I made more friends, and now I have a contact list of hundreds (Harvard Lawyers, Business Execs, Dentists and Surgeons to name a few). Of course, I can’t be close friends with all of them, so there is only a dozen that I actually keep in touch with.
My close friends and I are in our mid-twenties to mid-thirties. One of us has reached a million dollars not including his total network, and the rest of us are – let’s just say doing very well for ourselves.
I’ve succeeded in changing hundreds of lives through seminars in the areas of Self Development, Dating, and Conversation.
Please don’t think that I’m trying to brag, my point in telling you this is to hope you’re encouraged to realize that, if someone like me who couldn’t make a friend if my life depended on it….through faith, and hard-work, can be someone who now attracts all sorts of quality people into my life, (and to sound cliche) you can too! If this is what you are interested in achieving, let me be the one who provides you that access.
Where am I at now
For the first time ever, I can honestly say that I Love My-Self, My-Life, and Who I Have Become.
New Journey Into A One-Man-Company
As with anything in life, people take on different views–and where I wanted to be in life eventually conflicted with the company I was working for. So, I put in my weeks notice and created howtomingle.com, my baby.
Why am I different?
There are many great self development bloggers who actually do what they preach. However, in the area of Conversation and Dating, there are very few, and even less that achieve real results. What I teach, comes from years of on-the-court experience, AND I consistently have my students produce REAL RESULTS!
I’ve traveled and taught in over 45 major cities world-wide, met, mingled, and have spoken to over thousands of different people(around the globe) and have forged dozens of relationships over the years. My Conversational Techniques produce the same successful results everywhere and every time!
Everything you read here on this blog is Tried, Tested, and True–I promise.
I invite you to browse through my Free Content….
May I suggest you check out the HowtoMingle’s Basics Area as a Starting Point.
P.S. check out some of my students who have graduated my programs and are now living a much more fulfilling life!