When Should We Cut People From Our Lives?

Alright. Let’s talk about cutting ties with people we once cared about.

But first let’s you and I be real, as we get older our time becomes more and more limited. Now-a-days, I can only forge so many relationships at a given time. For me, it’s never been about surrounding myself with an army of acquaintances….I’m in it for the long hall: building long-term friendships. Quality over Quantity baby.

Years ago, I had a client named Tom. We became good friends, so much to the point where I even let him sit in on my workshops, free of charge(which is a big deal for me!).

Together, we created some memorable times. He eventually found a girlfriend(which is fine), but things took a turn for the worse when he made it a regular habit of ditching and rescheduling our get-togethers.

Yeah-yeeah I know, we’ve all heard this story before…

The final straw came three years ago during a private instruction I had with a client. Now, anyone who knows me will tell you that I am proud of the people I surround myself with. In my eyes, my circle of friends are the creme-of-le-crop. Not only do my friends have their social lives together, but they are also 24/7 Attractive People, like myself. So it’s only natural that I surround myself with like-minded people.

One positive aspect in teaching a private instruction seminar in my hometown is that I get to show my clients what their lives can be like by showing them how I live my life on a daily basis, in my home town. This is partly done by introducing them to the quality people that I surround myself with.

So I inform Tom that my client has been wanting to meet him from all the stories I’ve shared with Tom being the main star in many of our debauchery’s together.

Tom lets me know that he’ll be at a local bar a couple of minutes away from my hotel.

Later that night, I arrive at the bar on time and I wait patiently with my client, and I wait some more… 45 minutes later I’m still waiting. At this point I’m embarrassed, as I mentioned repeatedly how great of a person Tom is, and now he’s not even here!

1 Hour and 30 Minutes Later…

…..he finally shows up, and tells me he can’t stay long. I come to find out he was around the corner the whole time but didn’t want to leave his girlfriend alone with her own friends.

This was the final straw, for the last time I felt like a fool.

I deleted his number and from time to time I’ll get a call or text from him, of course I never reply.

Recently though, he’s been hitting me up non-stop, calling, texting, emails… as usual I don’t respond.

I eventually receive a text from him:

Tom: Are you that scorned? I was gonna ask you to be a groomsman for me but nevermind….

in Vegas..

I reply: Congradulations, glad your going to finally marry. But we havent spoken in three years. I can’t be your groosmen, I’m sorry.

Tom: At least call me and tell me over the phone.

Alright, so this may sound silly but he’s very persuasive on the phone and it’s always been hard for me to turn down the people who I care about(or used to).  I feel very strong about this and want to stick to my morals. So for that, I don’t even wanna give him the chance to get me on the phone.

So what do you think? Should I respond back to him? Should I be his groomsmen? Or should I let him feel devastated as how I felt years ago when he consistently let me down.

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