There are Three things that come into play when making friends: You, Them, & the Universe–also known as, Logistics.
What people don’t realize is that the most important of the three, isn’t the witty things you say or how charming the other person is, but it’s The Universe in which the both of you share.
The universe plays at least 70% into whether you make a new friend or not. Logistics(The Universe) to me, is essentially everything that’s out of my control. The only thing I can control is myself, everything else I have no control over, and that’s the universe.
However, you can fix the odds of things going your way by preparing yourself for potential future mishaps. This is done through Asking Logistical Questions.
Logistical Situation 1. Let’s say you’re the next Legendary Rock Star of the decade, but you live in Eaglepass, Texas–population, less than 1,000. Let’s face it, there’s no-way of making your dreams come true because the universe is standing in your way. But by asking logistical issues such as:
- Where will I have to be to achieve my dreams?
- How will I get there?
- Who do I have to meet?
Answering these Logistical Questions will provide you answers that will give you better odds of making your dreams come true. Maybe you’ve decided that L.A. is the only place to be discovered, or better yet, maybe using the Internet and getting on Youtube to showcase your talent is your best option.
Logistical Situation 2. Let’s say you see a very influential politician, someone you’ve been wanting to meet for a very long time. You spot him at a rally, it’s loud, there’s a long line, and security is very tight. Now you have to ask yourself these logistical questions:
- Will I have to shout in his ear for him to hear me?
- How will I cut through all these people?
- How will I surpass security when the only way of meeting him is by having a special badge.
Maybe the best way is for you to wait it out, sometimes fighting the universe is just out of your hands. Maybe you could catch your unsuspecting politician in an elevator, and Bam! You say your elevator pitch.
Logistical Situation 3. Let’s say you’re having the time of your life with a girl you’ve just met, you’re spitting out some of the best lines known to man, and she’s also enjoying your company. But five minutes into the interaction she pulls out her phone and you overhear her saying,” Hey! Oh…you’re right outside? Ok I’ll be right out!” She turns back to you and says, “Hey! It was nice meeting you but I have to go!”
What are you going to do and say then? Get her number as she’s running off? No, because you wouldn’t want to come off as needy and desperate.
Here’s what I do: Once I’m enjoying my time with anyone, the first thing I always ask is: “What are you doing tonight?”
Let’s say she replies with, “Oh, I’m just waiting for my friend to pick me up in 5 minutes, from there we’re going to Lotus Lounge in Uptown.”
After hearing this, I now know that I have a time-line of Five Minutes, I gotta get to know her a bit, show some interest early on and throughout our chat, get her number after about three minutes, and charm her a bit more to make an everlasting impression so she’ll remember me later in the night.
All these scenarios are all different but very alike in the same sense that unless you to fix-your-logistics by asking yourself logistical questions, The Universe will stand in your way.
Not asking Logistical Questions is like going into a battle field with blind folds on, you’ve basically lost before it’s even begun. So whether it’s making your dreams come true, meeting a new contact, or mingling with someone you want to date–ask yourself the necessary logistical questions and eliminate potential problems that may lie ahead when making friends. Best of luck!
-Parker
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Nice flow of words Parker, couldn’t agree with you more.. Always learning a thing or two from ya man.. THANKS!
Thanks Sohnny, check back for more constant updates! And let me know if there are any topics about relationships, mingling with others you’d want me to write about.
–Parker